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Seven Days of Things I love: Top Five Valentine’s Gifts for Broke Sweathearts!

HeartBouquetCover smaller 199x300 Seven Days of Things I love: Top Five Valentines Gifts for Broke Sweathearts!I’ve said it again and again over on facebook: I love to give away free books.

This time, my portion of the book is the story of a last minute confession of love–or will the attempt be thwarted? The setting: A college campus. The lover: A poor grad student.

I honor or Marty, my poor grad student, I want to give you the top #5 Valentine’s Day gift ideas for students and other broke folks.

#4. Daniel and I used to be broke Valentines, and so we made each other a mountain of cards and gifts and artsy hoohaw. We have most of it still. I shared several of the best of these last year, on my 14 days of love. Here is one of the best: A sweet card, created from regular old white printer paper and a ball point pen. But, from the heart, so 15 years later, I still have it. Trust me, handmade Valentines never go out of style.

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Pen and Ink Goodness on the Front

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The Little Things that Make all the Difference

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#3. When you’re broke, you’re broke. But if you are like me, you still have coffee. So…if you can’t afford a box of chocolate, fresh flowers, or tickets to hear Matt Maher, drop by your Valentine’s dorm, work, or that place you all hang out on campus (we hung out on the couches by the big stone fireplace) with two of your best travel mugs full of hot brew. (Folgers brews up for about 6 cents a cup, making a mug full almost the cheapest Valentine ever!) When served with a little side of “time together” and listening to his or her day, this little, cheap Valentine is one your sweetie won’t forget.

#2. Everyone loves “SomeEcards,” You know the ones, with the old fashioned pictures and the terribly modern sentiments. But so many of them are rude, disgusting, or just plain inappropriate. Show your sweetie you love them by creating your own–one that is funny and hip without being rude! Here’s a site for free clip art to get you started!

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#1. And finally, my number one idea for a great Valentine for broke folks is, of course, Heart Bouquets, The Valentine’s anthology with my lovelorn grad student is free today, making it the perfect last minute gift from a broke lover to his romance loving sweetie!

What do stories about a high school principal with a mean reputation, a doctor searching for his dream car, an ad executive still in love with his ex-wife, a clueless husband, a graduating grad student trying to buy a cup of coffee for his ladylove, and a missionary on furlough have in common? Romance.

Authors Marji Laine, Jennifer Fromke, Lynda Schab, Stephanie Craig, Traci Tyne Hilton, and Peggy Cunningham, each give you a unique story: their Heart Bouquets especially for you.

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14 Days of Love: Day 13, Puppy Love

There’s a fatal error on my blog. It’s out of memory. I can’t show you puppy love the way I want to, with the picture of the two girls, with their flannel nightgowns, only just tall enough to stand at the oven to see whats cooking inside, with the fuzzy golden dog, between them on two feet just like his girls.

Or the picture of the dog when he was a tiny puppy and I put him in the doll cradle that my dad built. I still wish I had put Lucy in it when she was a newborn. But she was a baby person and I couldn’t bring myself to do it, in case she tipped out. But a baby puppy? Cute, fuzzy, and a little less breakable.

My favorite puppy-love picture is worth 1000 words. Maybe even 1000 and a half words. The littlest girl sits in the wing-back chair. She’s wearing fuzzy polk-a-dot footie jammies and black wellies. Her hair is long, brown, and glossy. Sitting with her is her caramel colored dog with the shiny black nose. There’s an Englishness to the picture that melts my heart. But even better than the wellies is the smug look on the little girl’s face. Lucy has a dog. And you only wish you had one. Complete satisfaction at only four years old.

Our dog makes me ask, “What were we waiting for all those years?” And “How could we have gone all those years without a dog?” He loves us so much that he can’t stop tasting us.

He also loves blankets just like my kids did when they were babies.

When Norah was a little older than one I could leave her in the church nursery just by spreading her (still) favorite blanket out on the floor. I’d spread it out and smile and she would run to it and lie down with ecstasy on her face.

That’s what our dog does when we spread out a blanket too. That’s part of how we know he’s one of us.

He has a curly tail that wags like mad when we talk baby talk. He loves to run (very Hilton of him.) That time when the pit bull attacked him three miles from our house and he slipped his collar to get away? He made it ALL THE WAY BACK TO OUR HOUSE!Down one hill, up another, across the busy road and right to our door. He is SO smart!

What else can I say? I wish you could see the pictures. I wish I could show you how a family isn’t complete without a dog.

It’s every bit as fantastic as the Marley movie made it out to be. (And so far we’re only down two couches, one wing-back chair, one rocking chair, three rugs, two handmade quilts, and several stuffed animals.)

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14 Days of Love: Day 12, DATE NIGHT!

It’s Saturday night, as I write this. That means at 9:00 it will be date night.

What does date night look like when you are poor, young, suburban, and have babies? It looks like Saturday night, a cup of tea, some sandwich cookies, and the early 2000′s OPB Brit Com line up, with such classics as As Time Goes By, My Hero, and New Tricks. Before kids, I worked retail hours and even when the kids were little Daniel kept very irregular on-call hours. But somehow, Saturday Nights at 9:00, meet in the living room, was a date we could keep. We were important to each other for a few hours every week, no matter what the rest of the week looked like.

For an awful lot of years that was the only date Daniel and I could afford. Then, one magical day, it occurred to us that time and persistence had paid off and we weren’t poor anymore. We were lower middle class! What do you do for date night when you are lower middle class? Do you start paying babysitters and going out? No way! You get NetFlix and have date night any night you want!

Through the magic of Netflix we’ve discovered such classics as Ballykissangel (I was blue for a week after Assumpta died) and Monarch of the Glen (Don’t even get me started about when Hector died!) Frankly we’ve taken the whole of British dramedy into our bosom, adoring everything from Doc Martin to Kingdom.

Speaking of Stephen Fry, OPB has done Oregonians and injustice by keeping him a secret all these years. You think Ben Harper is funny? (and come on, if you watch TV on Saturday nights around these parts then you think Ben Harper of My Family is funny!) You don’t know funny until you’ve seen Stephen Fry waxing eloquent on his scrumptious pinkness in A Bit of Fry and Laurie.

We thought it couldn’t get funnier than Fry and Laurie. Then we found Mitchell and Web.

But, here I am, blogging love just an hour and a half before date night. The kids are in the other room watching Pink Panther on Netflix and Daniel is nowhere in sight. What happened?!

We diluted date night. We could have it whenever we wanted it, and as much as we wanted and suddenly it wasn’t special anymore. We don’t even turn on OPB on Saturday nights anymore. And Daniel? He and his mandolin are at a jam session at the moose lodge. No really. They are.

So..where is the love? If Daniel get’s home before like 10, we might still watch something, but we are out of Black Books and the IT Crowd. We have to wait for the next disc of Poirot and Miss Marple puts me to sleep. I won’t make any tea though because that’s pretty late for having caffeine. We might have some hot water, because we roll like that.

Date Night. If anyone who is reading this desperately sad post on our defunct Date Night ritual has some ideas for spicing it up a little I would dearly appreciate them. (Oh, um. Keep in mind that we are the kind of people who drink hot water in the evening and go to jam sessions with the very elderly at the Moose Lodge, so keep the ideas g rated. Or at least use G rated euphemisms!)

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14 Days of Love: Day 11,

It’s day 11 now, and I find myself asking, “What else do I love?” I can’t be out of love yet, in real life I’ve got to figure out how to love for 365 days.

I know loved Thursday. I went in to the school and helped the teacher do assessments. I got to sit down with the sweetest, cutest five and six year-olds ever, as they counted, read numbers, and tried to remember the difference between doce and veinte. My little sweetie was the only one (of the handful of kids I worked with) who organized her veinte fichas into two sets of colors so she could say, “Diez amarillo y diez rojo hace veite!” Or, ten yellow and ten red make 20. The kid has more than a little of the engineer in her. I will have to hold my tongue when God gives her a serious career someday and she has to chose between staying home with her kids or using her gifts to do something big for the world. It will be a hard enough decision without my input. Right now she is torn though, between being a ballet teacher who crochets sweaters for chihuahuas or an artist who also teaches art classes on Fridays.

One of the little girls I did assessments with on Thursday sat down, looked up at me with those huge blue eyes in a baby face crowned with whispy blonde angel hair that some children are blessed to have in kindergarten still and said, “My grandpa already died.”

I asked, “When did he die, sweety?”

“Last night.”

Of course, my heart fell to my knees. I’ve met her mom, and I know all four of the kids who don’t have their grandpa anymore.

I asked her what happened and she said, “His heart went down instead of up.”

I think that must be kindergarten for a heart attack or a stroke.

I’m not faculty at the school, and I do know her mom, so I offered her a hug.

She said, “When I cried, my mommy cried too.”

And so, I think I don’t have to look that far to see something else to love. I love that little girl. And her mommy. And I love my little girls. And their grandparents, all four of them. And I am so thankful that they are all still here with us, and we don’t have to teach our kids to hope and wait for the day we can all be together again.

But I love that as well. I love that we can hope and wait because one day that little girl and her brother and sisters and mom and dad will be with Grandpa again. They all know Jesus. And I love that.

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14 Days of Love: Day 10, 14 Days of Random Love Songs!

If you haven’t discovered Jamie Grace yet, then today a great wrong is being righted! She is a seriously talented 19 year old college student who was discovered by Toby Man on youtube. I follow her on Facebook and noticed that she is using her youtube channel to celebrate Valentine’s Day with 14 Days of Random Love Songs!

Start with this one, and then watch the rest. : )

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14 Days of Love: Day 9, a Love Story

A long, long time ago, in the green, forested hills of a faraway kingdom, there lived a beautiful lass named Meridel. Her stepfather the kindly Duke had fallen in love with Meridel’s impoverished mother and moved her to his land, just a short time before. The Duke had wooed Lady Beatrice and won her heart and it was his pleasure to give young Meridel, and her four siblings, the futures they hadn’t dared to dream of before.

But Meridel had a stubborn heart. She did not want to take from her stepfather and only begrudgingly admitted that he was a good man who loved her family.

There was a prince in this land, who saw the beautiful and stubborn Meridel and wanted to soften her heart with his love. He had little to offer, but his ability to work hard, for the kingdom was not magnificent or rich. To Prince Edward’s delight, Meridel encouraged his attentions. But it wasn’t just because Meridel longed to be independent of the Duke. Prince Edward’s shy charm, and skills on the field of battle would have won a harder heart than hers.

A dark cloud rolled over the land of the lovers. War was swiftly approaching and though Prince Edward, his friends, and Meridel’s own brothers were young men, they were called away to fight. Edward was to go on a ship that would send him far across the world.

With little time left, he approached the Duke and Lady Beatrice and asked for Meridel’s hand.

He was confident that he would be accepted. Prince Edward had a bright future. The Duke and the King (Edward’s father) were dear friends. Meridel herself had shown her mind in the matter. All that stood in the way of a lifetime of love was the war, which he was determined to survive.

But like the frigid bite of icy wind from the North, Meridel’s mother spoke caution to his petition.

“Why would you marry my daughter?” she asked. “Meridel is 18 and the doctors say she hasn’t two full years left to live. Her heart is too weak.”

The prince was a champion on the tournament field, but that was nothing to the coming war. Likewise, to leave without making Meridel his wife was more terrifying than the thought of losing her in two years. And so he said that. He said, “If all she has is two years, than I want to be married to her for two years.”

And so Edward and Meridel were married.

The war raged around them, but at the end of it Edward came home safely and found that his wife did have a stubborn heart, and was waiting for him when the ship brought him home. Her stubborn heart kept her going until a doctor came to the land who was able to heal her.

Prince Edward loved his Meridel until his own heart gave out, after only 25 years of marriage. But her stubborn heart never did give up. So her two years turned into 70 and she lives in a tower now, with children, grandchildren, and great grandchildren who love her still.


Edward and Meridel are my grandparents. The Kingdom in the hills is the logging community of Kinzua, Oregon, which was torn down in the 1970′s. The Duke was one of the bosses of the company town, my Great Grandfather O. D. Baker and the King was one of the town founders, my other Great Grandfather Mel Wham.

The tournaments were the baseball games, where Edward was a star. The war was The War. The doctor performed open heart surgery on my grandma, making her the second person in Oregon to have the surgery and extending her life decades longer than anyone could have expected.

Edward died of a heart attack at 49, in 1970 and never had to see his Kingdom disappear.

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14 Days of Love: Day 7, Love Is…

I Corinthians 13:4-8

 

“Love is patient…” and doesn’t complain about the pile of laundry next to the bed. Or the unmatched socks in their own pile, or the dishes in the sink.

“love is kind…” and fixes breakfast for the girls every morning so I can have 15 extra minutes of sleep

“It does not envy…” my freedom to schedule my own work.

“it does not boast…” when he was right about, well, frankly anything. He really doesn’t. I try not to, but it can be hard because being right is so satisfying!

“it is not proud…” and lets me do the finances because he knows I love it. (I’m thinking this could easily be a pride or control issues for many men!)

“It is not rude…” or at least never in public, or on purpose!

“it is not self-seeking…” in fact, he is playing dominoes with the girls right now even though he could be outside burning stuff.

“it is not easily angered…” though I’m sure it is tempting

“it keeps no record or wrong…” as far as I know, which is something in itself, because I am usually tempted to pull out that ugly list of past wrongs when we happen to accidently fall into an argument.

“Love does not delight in evil…” and he has had plenty of opportunity since I have a way of getting into trouble.

…but rejoices in truth…

“It always protects, always trusts, always hopes and always perseveres…” He always goes to work,  and always comes home to me. He eats whatever I cook and lives to tell about it!

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14 Days of Love: Day 6, Loving Acts of Kindness

What do yarn, HGTV and Title I Schools have in common?

Well…my kids go to a Title I grade school which means that most of the kids there have some serious economic need. Every winter, to help meet some of those needs, the school has a giving tree. Hats, scarves, and gloves are the old fashioned decorations for the tree. The school gives the decorations out to kids as they walk in in the morning.

This year I did tree duty a couple of times. We were very short on scarves…about ten scarves to distribute through a school of about 650 kids. As the kids asked for a scarf I made them show me their coats. If they had a hood or a collar that could zip up to keep their neck warm, they couldn’t have a scarf (not from me anyway.) One little girl with a nice warm coat wanted a scarf so badly that I was afraid she’d leave her coat at home the next day to get one. I didn’t want her to do that. And yet, that morning at least she was warm and a good 200 other kids (or more, who knows?) were cold.

It frustrated me and made me sad.

So this year I’m organizing knitters and crocheters (and frankly, shoppers too.) Next year we can anticipate at student body of about 700 so I’m trying to get 700 scarves.

I want to be able to give a box of scarves to every teacher. The teacher can then distribute them to the students in her class, no matter what their coat looks like or what their financial status at home is.

So far my Facebook friends have rallied to the cause, one friend making five scarves a month in 2012 her New Year’s Resolution. My Grandma and mom have whipped out a dozen or more already as well.

That covers the school and the yarn. What about the HGTV? Well…that’s what I watch while I crochet and knit. I’m up to six scarves already, and know more about moss gardens, loft condos in Atlanta, and Sara’s House than I probably ought to. ; )

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14 Days of Love: Day 5, Crafty Love

While we were dating, Daniel and I made each other a lot of cards. This was partly because I worked at a print shop and got bored and partly because crafty people express themselves through crafts. While hunting down the menu from yesterday’s post I ran across this gem. A lovely card from Daniel to me.

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Pen and Ink Goodness on the Front

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Subtle and Charming Message


(This says: “A Man is Only as Good as what He Loves.”

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The Little Things that Make all the Difference


(Can you read this rebus on the back of the card?)

I may have to hunt for some of my old cards, to round things out. I’m sure I made something worth saving at some point. I know more than one collage is hiding around here somewhere…

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14 Days of Love: Day 4, Young Love

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